What You Should Know While Dating As A Christian

"The LORD God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. 
I will make a helper suitable for him.”- (Genesis 2:18)


Dating as a christian is not a bad thing especially when you go into it with a clear mind and pure heart. I know a lot of people are going to see this post and question where my loyalty lies. Am I for dating or am I for Courting? Well... In all honesty I don't see anything wrong with both! I have been grateful enough to experience the dating life as a Christian woman and let me tell you it has been a very interesting ride. But my experiences on that side of life has made me appreciate the authenticity of courting. I appreciate courting just one person and it potentially ending in marriage. I am at that age were "dating" is just not enough for me and through my experiences I have noticed it can be a waste of time if your Godly morals are missed placed or have been tinted by the worlds opinion of what dating should look like. That is why I am here to give you all "5 Tips To Follow When Dating As A Christian." If you choose to go down this path I want you all to have a great dating life that is fun and know how to cut off the men or women that are just trying to waste your time. It's very important to have a healthy, fun, and successful dating life as a Christian single. 


Who knows you dating may lead to you finding the one. Just make sure whatever you do you go into this dating scene with God in mind. Be led by the Holy Spirit, not your flesh.





Alright, lets get into these tips:

Tip #1- Say No To Sex!!

I apologize, but I literally have to scream Tip #1 at you all. Dating as a Christian does not mean having one night stands, giving into sexual urges or temptation with everyone you date. Matter of fact don't have sex PERIOD! Galatians 5:19-21 says, "When you follow the desires of your sinful nature, the results are very clear: sexual immorality, impurity, lustful pleasures, idolatry, sorcery, hostility, quarreling, jealousy, outbursts of anger, selfish ambition, dissension, division, envy, drunkenness, wild parties, and other sins like these. Let me tell you again, as I have before, that anyone living that sort of life will not inherit the Kingdom of God." I don't want to come off as the preachy Yoruba auntie, but it's important to know why God tells us not to have sex before marriage. I truly believe God knows what He is talking about and His method of living life through Him works 100%. When you chose to apply no sex to your Christian dating life it allows you to get to know the individuals you are dating. Having sex with someone attaches you to them and that can blind you from seeing who they truly are. 

It's either you are going to chose to represent God correctly and do things His way or you are going to do things your way and possibly face the consequence of your actions. It doesn't matter what your past sexual resume looks like. Once you give your life to Christ and you choose to follow God wholeheartedly it important to allow Him to guide your path and also listen to Him through your journey so you don't miss your way. 

Also, I think it's important for me to remind you that just because you are dating someone does not mean you are already in a relationship with them. Unless that person verbalizes that they want to be in a serious relationship with you. Do not just assume that you are with that person. Let me talk to my ladies real quick. Ladies, please do not give up the goodies to just any man who has not made any sort of commitment to you or married you. Your body is meant for the one...The one man God has for you. Do not allow these men to make you feel like they deserve some treats just because he has been dating you for months now. Nah fam! It don't work like that. You better tell that boy BUH BYE!


Tip #2- Set Boundaries, Boundaries, Boundaries!

It is very important to set good christian boundaries when dating. Which means no late nights at his crib, no booty calls, no sexting or sending unnecessary nudes and no sleeping in the same room on the same bed. You don't want to put yourself in a position of regret or where you will be tempted to do something you could have avoided in the first place. Not everyone has the willpower to say "no." That is why it is important to know your weakness and not put yourself in a vulnerable situation. Be upfront! Be honest! Be straightforward! Be firm if you have to be! Tell him or her like it is! If you have to go on group dates or double dates instead to maintain boundaries then do so. Know what your boundaries are and do what it takes to not break them.


Tips #3- Present Yourself Well (First Impression Matters)... Be Elegant and Dress Classy

Now I am not here to tell you how to dress or what to where but remember you are representing God and God is part of who you are. I believe in being stylish, beautiful but yet classy. When you look elegant and you become more confident. Trust me I am speaking from experience. It's better for your date to know who you are through Christ than him thinking about how to get you in his bed and undressing you with his eyes. I'm not saying dress like a preachers wife or be overly conservative. I am just saying present yourself in a way that would make God proud. If you can't wear it in God presence or in the house of the Lord then why wear it in front of a man that does not know you or you are just meeting for the very first time. 


Tip #4- Be True To Yourself! Do Not Pretend To Be What You're Not

The one thing I can not stand is someone saying they are Christian but when you get to know them they are the opposite. You can't present yourself as a Christian and then a couple of hours into the date you start acting out of character. Also, you cannot pretend to be holier than thou in front of your date and behind closed doors you are someone completely different. And don't pretend to be someone you're not just to please the person you're dating cause one day your true character will show. Let a person fall in love with you for who you are and because you are true to yourself than who you pretend to be. If you pretend now you will have to find ways to keep up with that image and trust me you cannot pretend forever. Just be yourself in Christ and be transparent. You might not be perfect but that's what makes dating you interesting. The person who you're dating might love your flaws and appreciate the fact that you are not afraid to be you in Christ. 


Tip #5- Date People Who You are Equally Yoked With

Save yourself the stress of dating a man or woman that you are unequally yoked with. It's just not worth it and to be honest you both have nothing in common. Like the bible says, "What fellowship can light have with darkness?" You want to make sure you are equally yoked with the person you intend on marrying or spending the rest of your life with. Being equally yoked does not just include your faith/walk with Christ, but it's also what you both bring to the table, you're work ethic, and things of that nature. You can't be out here dating a person that is lazy or has his or her priorities mixed up. For an example dating someone that rather smoke weed and party every night. No job, no goals, no real future plans. Don't be out here getting forehead wrinkles before your time because you choose to date "potentials." Dating a potential is not going to put food on the table when you end up marrying that person. Remember, the bible says, "a man who does not work does not eat." 

When you first start dating someone take it upon yourself to ask them the right questions. Knowing what their relationship with God is like in the beginning of your dating stage can help you see if you want to keep dating them or not. I know one of my deal breaker is that I can't date a man that does not believe in God and if he does believe in God his life has to reflect that as well or it's a no for me. You also need to now what your date is looking for in a lifetime partner. Are they ready for a long-term relationship? Do they see themselves settling down? What do they want in a wife or a husband? It doesn't hurt to ask question and dig a little deeper. No one wants to end up with someone God never planned for you to be with. 





I truly hope that these Christian tips helped you all out today. Don't just read this post, makes sure you also apply it to your dating life so you don't waste your time with people who are not a meant to be permanent in your life or be in your life at all. 


Stay Blessed Always


2 comments :

  1. This was great and powerful advice!! I agree with it all!! Keep up the great work ❤πŸ™Œ

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    1. Thank you so much Jennifer. Thank you for taking the time out to read my post. Blessings 🀍

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